Defined by Social Media
Does social media make up a fairly large part of your life right now? Over the past five years, this type of communication and marketing has exploded to the point where many of us are living in a social media world.
There are so many positives that come with using and getting involved in these social media outlets, and being that this is a “Make it Happen Monday” post, I’m not really wanting to speak on the negatives at all. But there’s something inside me that felt compelled to write about social media, and how I see so many people’s feelings defined by their online presence.
One observation I’ve made with this whole social media thing (I’m calling it that because I’m not sure what else to label it as), is that people get consumed with receiving “likes”, comments, and the ability to add friends. I’m not classifying everyone into this category, but I know I’m not alone in often getting caught up with the likeability factor. We post something and then wait and see what kind of response it will get….as the response and interest gets higher, so does our inherent self-worth.
It all boils down to the fact that human beings like to be liked. It’s part of who we are, and there is nothing at all wrong with it. But we do need to remember that we are not defined by how many people hit the “like” button on Facebook.
A few years back I was at a Jann Arden concert (she’s a Canadian artist, so many of you might not know who she is) and the night was filled with good music, laughter, sadness, and many other emotions. During the concert, she talked about having a low self-image even though she considers herself a highly confident person. That statement hit me pretty hard as before then I had always associated self-confidence with self-image. As of that night, I realized that being a confident person means nothing if you don’t feel totally happy within yourself.
With the emergence of social media, this concept has surfaced once again in my mind and although this doesn’t have much to do with cycling….I wanted to share the idea in today’s post. But you know, there is a way to integrate this with the idea of cycling. Your love for the bike has nothing to do with what others have to say about your riding. If people think you’re too slow, not technical enough, or have anything else to say about the way you ride a bike….so be it. In my opinion, our love for the bike comes from within and our riding should not be defined by anyone around us. We’re all champions.
It is part of human nature to be wanted, loved, respected, and appreciated….but why is it that we always rely on these things to come from other people to make us feel good about ourselves? Keep on supporting others on social media with “likes”, RT’s, and positive comments…but remember that the amount you receive back does not define you. There is one person whose opinion means the most, and it is always guaranteed to be there for you. That person is YOU.
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